Is a Matron of Honor speech and the role she plays at the wedding any different to a Maid of Honors?
My wife has just been asked to be her friends Matron of Honor. They are not best friends, nor are they friends that have known each other for a long time. She felt obliged to accept, even a little bit honored. She is wondering whether that because she is married, is she bound to be more responsible in her role and/or empart extra marriage advice? What should she talk about if they share very little history together? Is a Matron of Honor speech and her role all that different from a Maid of Honors?
The only real difference between a maid and a matron is that the maid is a single "miss" and a Matron is a married "mrs.” Regardless the role she fills for the bride is a matter of honor, no matter what her marital status is.
Being already married and having gone through the process before, your wife should have a very good head start over a lesser experienced, but no less honored Maid. She should think back to her own wedding and remember what was said. Maids and Matrons of Honor are part worker bee and part emotional shoulder to lean on.
Maids and Matrons of Honor may be required to do some or most of the following
*provide emotional and logistical support before and during the wedding.
* help with the wedding planning
*to keep a close eye on the bride – acts as her protector and protector of her dress, and *helping the bride to get ready on her wedding day and other assistance throughout the day.
* plan a bridal shower for the bride.
*plan a bachelorette party
* assist the bride in selecting and writing out the invitations
*assist in the selecting of decorations, cakes
*delivering a speech and/or toast
Customarily,but not always, the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for all expenses associated with her outfit, the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, as well as gifts for all these events. She may organise a others – including family or bridesmaids to also kick in some funding. If the Maid/Matron is from out of town, then they must account for their own travel expenses to and from the wedding and or other related pre-wedding functions. It is becoming more common for a bride to offer assistance in many of these financials. Maids/Matrons should get up front from the bride exactly what expenses they will be expected to bear. If they envisage that taking on such costs will be too much of a burden, then it really is far more suitable to decline the honor from the very outset, instead of dropping out of the wedding ceremony at the last minute.
Regarding the matron of honor speech, it is ordinarily the last of all the speeches. People may be losing their attention spans by the time it’s a Matrons turn to speak so the speech should be mildly interesting or amusing to keep the guests interested. Your wife should think about the speech that your maid or matron of honor gave at her wedding. She should take the time to carefully consider what exactly she’d like to say well in advance, so she should start now. The matron of honor speech traditionally ends with a toast to the bride, thanking her for the honor and offering her any ongoing support to the couple’s new marriage. If bride’s family are known well, this is a good time to thank them for the assistance they’ve offered in organizing the ceremony and the related parties
Although a Matron of Honor may wish to say something of the groom it is not required to endorse him in anyway.
Although a Maid/Matrons speech is relatively short, much time, thought and effort must be put into it. It is not something put together over a few hours or days. A great way to write a quality Matron of Honor speech is to look at over the numerous professional publications available for speech examples or samples, etiquette, tips, jokes, toasts etc
Despite numerous free sample speeches being available online, I would personally invest the odd $20 (which seems to be the going rate) on a professional Maid/matron of Honor Speech package. I went through the situation of trying to put through tons of information and samples together that I found on google just before my girlfriends wedding. It was information overload and none of it was organized in a coherent fashion for me. It ended up being a huge waste of time for junk. If I can give you and your wife any advice, it would be check out these pro packages.
I just did a quick search of Bing and Yahoo (Google always returns too much junk for me) with the term “Matron of Honor Speech” in quotes and amongst the loads of hits, I found near the top this review site. It seems like a logical place to start for some of the top professional speech packages for Maids and Matrons of Honor. Check it out – Matron of Honor Speech – http://matronofhonorspeech.net
All the best
Lucy
I wanted to start out, well basically I wanted to tell a little bit of a story, just one out of so many, and I’m going to start it by reading something I gave to Amanda a while ago. It might not make that much sense, but I’m gonna do my best to explain it in two minutes or less, well let’s say 8 minutes or less. So let me read it first. It says, ‘Don’t worry, with optimism, our wave function will create the luckiest universe. Seemingly unlucky moments like these’, now I’m not talking about now, I gave this to her in a completely different situation, ‘Seemingly unlucky moments like these will further entangle our quantum states and prove to be positive editions to our future’s past.’ So as you can probably tell –
This is the man I’m marrying. I’ve married, sorry, this is gonna be a little hard.
– OK, so let’s get into this a little bit, and Graeme sort of alluded [to this] a little bit. He said [he would], ‘leave the explanation of quantum mechanics up to me.’ So I’m not sure that can be done in 8 minutes or less but, first of all, has anyone heard of quantum mechanics, at least? Alright, that’s a good start, a little sparse, but does anyone understand quantum mechanics? Two! Alright, where’s the second one? I knew nick would put up his hand. Where’s the second one? Fred, forgot about Fred. Ok, so you guys are gonna have to help me out a bit, because I don’t understand, and I kind of doubt these guys (i’ll talk to them later), but there’s a couple things I’ve sort of figured out. One, it’s pretty weird, it’s pretty messed up, which is interesting because it happens to be the single most tested and proven theory of pretty much any scientific theory (I mean, it’s just gone through all these [tests]). But okay sorry, I don’t want to get too much into the science here today, I want to …anyway. The other thing about it is just [that] there’s a weird consequence of quantum mechanics when you look at how its effect combines with things like consciousness, the mind, and love, it does some weird things. It can actually have a huge effect on the world and the universe. And I’m not talking about if your conscious mind thinks of something and you actually do it. That’s one very powerful thing, but the other thing is just an immediate direct mind-love effect on the universe. So I’m gonna tell you a story about Amanda and I that will hopefully make this a little [clearer]. I thought I’d tell a story instead of going into the scientific proof. But if you are interested in the proof, there’s lots of books I can recommend, and I will get into that later [in the evening].
So this story starts with an adventure. Amanda and I go on endless adventures, all of our time together is unbelievably adventurous and exciting. So I want to talk about one adventure specifically. And actually I think it was Graeme…someone mentioned it. It had to do with a trip we decided to take to Disneyland. So we decided, well, we’ll drive down to Disneyland, that should be fine. I was in Seattle at the time, but the car was in Edmonton, so I flew from Salt Lake City to Edmonton, because I was visiting Amanda right before, aswell, and she flew to Edmonton, we met there, we grabbed the car and we hopped in. Now I’m sure some of you might have driven to Disneyland, but we decided to take only about eleven days, the actual number (I think it was two weeks that was said), but we had eleven days, that’s it, to drive down to Disneyland, and we had planned about three full days at Disneyland, and even that plan was detailed.
… full transcript: http://blog.whiverwill.com/2010/02/wedding-speech-loves-amplifaction-of.html …
(We’re almost done here. Sorry, I’ve crossed out so many things here to try and cut it down that I don’t know what’s next. Ok, I think the next…)
So let me read this again to you in the [new] context. (Oh, jees, I didn’t even [show you this].) This is actually the very clover, I don’t know if everyone can see it there, it’s in between these two pieces of glass, that’s the very clover I found, proof that I created it. But again it wasn’t me that created it, it was our love together, it was Amanda. Not only that, I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done in the last six years without Amanda. Even when we’re apart, none of the things I could have done would have been possible without Amanda. So, I’m going to read it again and maybe it will make a little more sense:
‘Don’t worry, with optimism, our wave function will create the luckiest universe, seemingly unlucky moments will further entangle our quantum states and prove to be positive editions to our future’s past. Love, Trevor Prentice.’
Now let me just translate this a little bit. So, in other words, no matter what comes our way, Amanda, our love will keep us together, forever. And I mean that in the most scientific sense: forever, infinite, I love you.
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Brian + Sabrina’s Wedding – Maid of Honor SpeechWriting a speech for a wedding reception, The matron-of-honor is a cousin to the bride through their fathers. The matron-of honor’s father is deceased. Does she refer to her father as "is a brother to the bride’s father" or "was a brother to the bride’s father"?
My answer is one that will probably raise some eyebrow’s in some quarters, I would use the expression as ‘is’, Why? because deceased relatives, regardless of rank and line in the family are always with us.They have only returned to their home’s from whence they came.
If it is secular, there are no rules. I suggest that you simply speak from the heart.
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my older sister is getting married next month. She has been planning this wedding forever. And now she is finally able to make it come true. She is 29 and is marrying her best friend, Jake. They’ve known each other since the second grade. She was telling me of what she had planned for the wedding. Her bridesmaid dresses are gonna be pale pink and her maid of honor’s dress is gonna be light pink with white glazed over it. Her wedding dress is gonna be from the Vera Wang collection. Her bouquet is made up of pink and white roses. The church pews are gonna be covered with pink and white orchids…She is so lucky, and I couldn’t be any happier. They are having a signing guest thingy kind of book where everyone in the wedding has an option to sign the book or not. I was wondering what I should put? She’s kind of like my second mother and has helped through out everything so any ideas of what to write down? And I also have to make a speech? I don’t really know what to say.. BTW I’m 22
and also..she’s dreamed of marrying Jake since she was in the fifth grade…and now, they’re finally together. I just don’t know what to say in the book and in the speech. Please help me?
and when i say second mother i really mean it…..our mom died when i was 3 and she was 10
Well you sign that you wish them the best of luck. Love them both very much and know that the love that they have for each other is like no other.
As for the speech, you elaborate much more. Start off by telling a story of your childhood. How thankful you are that she was there for you, what her presence in your life has been so meaningful. Talk of how she was when she first met Jake and how much happiness he brought into her life. Congratulate them and toast.
Good Luck!
Ron at Josh and Alyssa’s wedding (March 7, 2009)
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