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Is a Matron of Honor speech and the role she plays at the wedding any different to a Maid of Honors?
My wife has just been asked to be her friends Matron of Honor. They are not best friends, nor are they friends that have known each other for a long time. She felt obliged to accept, even a little bit honored. She is wondering whether that because she is married, is she bound to be more responsible in her role and/or empart extra marriage advice? What should she talk about if they share very little history together? Is a Matron of Honor speech and her role all that different from a Maid of Honors?
The only real difference between a maid and a matron is that the maid is a single "miss" and a Matron is a married "mrs.” Regardless the role she fills for the bride is a matter of honor, no matter what her marital status is.
Being already married and having gone through the process before, your wife should have a very good head start over a lesser experienced, but no less honored Maid. She should think back to her own wedding and remember what was said. Maids and Matrons of Honor are part worker bee and part emotional shoulder to lean on.
Maids and Matrons of Honor may be required to do some or most of the following
*provide emotional and logistical support before and during the wedding.
* help with the wedding planning
*to keep a close eye on the bride – acts as her protector and protector of her dress, and *helping the bride to get ready on her wedding day and other assistance throughout the day.
* plan a bridal shower for the bride.
*plan a bachelorette party
* assist the bride in selecting and writing out the invitations
*assist in the selecting of decorations, cakes
*delivering a speech and/or toast
Customarily,but not always, the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for all expenses associated with her outfit, the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, as well as gifts for all these events. She may organise a others – including family or bridesmaids to also kick in some funding. If the Maid/Matron is from out of town, then they must account for their own travel expenses to and from the wedding and or other related pre-wedding functions. It is becoming more common for a bride to offer assistance in many of these financials. Maids/Matrons should get up front from the bride exactly what expenses they will be expected to bear. If they envisage that taking on such costs will be too much of a burden, then it really is far more suitable to decline the honor from the very outset, instead of dropping out of the wedding ceremony at the last minute.
Regarding the matron of honor speech, it is ordinarily the last of all the speeches. People may be losing their attention spans by the time it’s a Matrons turn to speak so the speech should be mildly interesting or amusing to keep the guests interested. Your wife should think about the speech that your maid or matron of honor gave at her wedding. She should take the time to carefully consider what exactly she’d like to say well in advance, so she should start now. The matron of honor speech traditionally ends with a toast to the bride, thanking her for the honor and offering her any ongoing support to the couple’s new marriage. If bride’s family are known well, this is a good time to thank them for the assistance they’ve offered in organizing the ceremony and the related parties
Although a Matron of Honor may wish to say something of the groom it is not required to endorse him in anyway.
Although a Maid/Matrons speech is relatively short, much time, thought and effort must be put into it. It is not something put together over a few hours or days. A great way to write a quality Matron of Honor speech is to look at over the numerous professional publications available for speech examples or samples, etiquette, tips, jokes, toasts etc
Despite numerous free sample speeches being available online, I would personally invest the odd $20 (which seems to be the going rate) on a professional Maid/matron of Honor Speech package. I went through the situation of trying to put through tons of information and samples together that I found on google just before my girlfriends wedding. It was information overload and none of it was organized in a coherent fashion for me. It ended up being a huge waste of time for junk. If I can give you and your wife any advice, it would be check out these pro packages.
I just did a quick search of Bing and Yahoo (Google always returns too much junk for me) with the term “Matron of Honor Speech” in quotes and amongst the loads of hits, I found near the top this review site. It seems like a logical place to start for some of the top professional speech packages for Maids and Matrons of Honor. Check it out – Matron of Honor Speech – http://matronofhonorspeech.net
All the best
Lucy
Writing a speech for a wedding reception, The matron-of-honor is a cousin to the bride through their fathers. The matron-of honor’s father is deceased. Does she refer to her father as "is a brother to the bride’s father" or "was a brother to the bride’s father"?
My answer is one that will probably raise some eyebrow’s in some quarters, I would use the expression as ‘is’, Why? because deceased relatives, regardless of rank and line in the family are always with us.They have only returned to their home’s from whence they came.
Matron of Honor, Valerie Sirota, gives a speech
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Jenny Larbes and Chad Noward Wedding – mix of speeches given by the Best Man, Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor
Duration : 0:3:30
While I have bridesmaids, I really have no maid or matron of honor. Is there some unpublished rule in the bridal law book that you have to have one? I get along with men better than women, so the majority of my friends are male.
While I don’t plan on asking them to walk down the aisle in a dress or with a guy, I have been considering having my brothers be "men of honor" yet still stand with the groomsmen. I couldn’t pick between them and ask just one of them to walk me down the aisle (my dad died 5 years ago, so I asked my uncle to)
My bridemaids consists of a few cousins, a friend and my brothers wives. I have no sisters, and get along with my brothers wives but I’m not overly close to either of them.
My best friend is a guy (who is gay) and is a groomsmen, he was actually my first choice for "maid of honor" (he seemed offended by man of honor) but he is doing the speech for the bridesmaid/maid of honor.
Another thing I have considered is rather then have the bridesmaids & groomsmen stand on each side like ducks in a row, is have each couple stand together.
I am having a man and a maid of honor, and my hubby to be is having a best man and woman. they will be standing on our respective sides. I really don’t think there is a problem with breaking that tradition. The people standing next to you are there for your support as you go through this important part of your life. It really means a lot to me that my two best friends from college are standing up there next to me. My uncle is the priest that is giving the ceremony, and he thinks it’s fun as well. I also went to a friends wedding last year where they did the same thing. I think it is becoming more and more common to mix the male and females in the bridal party based on relationships rather than gender.
Good luck!
Matron of Honor Address by Colleen Zaccaria. Uncut; shot by JG, Produced by FR
Duration : 0:6:28
My best friend is getting married on Sunday. She has two Maids of Honor- her cousin and I. Her future mother in law made programs for the wedding listing her cousin as MOH and her future sister in law as "Matron of Honor"- I am listed as a bridemaid. I told my friend I am not giving a speech if I am listed as a bridesmaid, bridesmaids don’t give speeches. I found it offensive that I have put a ton of hard work in as a MOH only to be acknowledged as a bridesmaid. The mother in law also added two living grandparents as "In Memory of" so she had to change the programs anyway- so why couldn’t she change my name too? After two days of not speaking to my friend, she finally called to tell me it’s being changed tonight, and she doesn’t want to talk about it ever again. Am I wrong?? My feelings were incredibly hurt that nobody would stand up and acknowledge this error on my behalf. Plus, if they were already changing the grandparents part, why would it be so hard to change the rest? My BF tells me I should know how she feels and that I’m the MOH in her eyes, but what will all the guests think when there’s some bridesmaid up there giving a speech? Help!! Now I feel like I should have kept my mouth shut and let it go.
Also, the sister in law and the bride are not even close. They really dislike each other! She hasn’t been there for the bridal shower or bachelorette party.. so to put her in an MOH role is just absurd. Also, the mother in law doesn’t like me because I am closer to the bride than her daughter is. They’re VERY petty people.
I didn’t even read the whole question.
Little heads up, deary, this wedding isn’t actually about YOU.
You’re being so unbelievably selfish, I would have asked you to NOT be in the wedding if I were your friend. You and the bride know the truth of your relationship. You don’t need a PROGRAM to tell you, do you?
My best friend didn’t make me her official MOH at her wedding to avoid family drama. I graciously stepped aside for her childish, bratty cousin to take the title. I love my friend enough not to care. Also, I gave a speech as "just a bridesmaid."
But you are horribly selfish and childish. I don’t care how "hard you worked." IT ISN’T ABOUT YOU.
Sheesh.
my sister is getting married on friday and i hate giving speeches!!!!!!!!!! she just sprung this on me yesterday and I am freaking out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Any help, i don’t want to tell childhood stories just a short happy speech. ANY help would be Greatly appreciated!
A wedding speech is a pronouncement of one’s well wishes to the bridal couple. It is not a long diatribe or a performance. You are perfectly right to keep it light and short.
It’s not a difficult thing to do. Simply stand up, raise your glass, and wait until you have a captive audience. Then wish them health, success, and the they’ll continue to grow in their love. Smile charmingly, then take your seat.
Kent and Diana’s wedding reception