Is a Matron of Honor speech and the role she plays at the wedding any different to a Maid of Honors?
My wife has just been asked to be her friends Matron of Honor. They are not best friends, nor are they friends that have known each other for a long time. She felt obliged to accept, even a little bit honored. She is wondering whether that because she is married, is she bound to be more responsible in her role and/or empart extra marriage advice? What should she talk about if they share very little history together? Is a Matron of Honor speech and her role all that different from a Maid of Honors?
The only real difference between a maid and a matron is that the maid is a single "miss" and a Matron is a married "mrs.” Regardless the role she fills for the bride is a matter of honor, no matter what her marital status is.
Being already married and having gone through the process before, your wife should have a very good head start over a lesser experienced, but no less honored Maid. She should think back to her own wedding and remember what was said. Maids and Matrons of Honor are part worker bee and part emotional shoulder to lean on.
Maids and Matrons of Honor may be required to do some or most of the following
*provide emotional and logistical support before and during the wedding.
* help with the wedding planning
*to keep a close eye on the bride – acts as her protector and protector of her dress, and *helping the bride to get ready on her wedding day and other assistance throughout the day.
* plan a bridal shower for the bride.
*plan a bachelorette party
* assist the bride in selecting and writing out the invitations
*assist in the selecting of decorations, cakes
*delivering a speech and/or toast
Customarily,but not always, the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for all expenses associated with her outfit, the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, as well as gifts for all these events. She may organise a others – including family or bridesmaids to also kick in some funding. If the Maid/Matron is from out of town, then they must account for their own travel expenses to and from the wedding and or other related pre-wedding functions. It is becoming more common for a bride to offer assistance in many of these financials. Maids/Matrons should get up front from the bride exactly what expenses they will be expected to bear. If they envisage that taking on such costs will be too much of a burden, then it really is far more suitable to decline the honor from the very outset, instead of dropping out of the wedding ceremony at the last minute.
Regarding the matron of honor speech, it is ordinarily the last of all the speeches. People may be losing their attention spans by the time it’s a Matrons turn to speak so the speech should be mildly interesting or amusing to keep the guests interested. Your wife should think about the speech that your maid or matron of honor gave at her wedding. She should take the time to carefully consider what exactly she’d like to say well in advance, so she should start now. The matron of honor speech traditionally ends with a toast to the bride, thanking her for the honor and offering her any ongoing support to the couple’s new marriage. If bride’s family are known well, this is a good time to thank them for the assistance they’ve offered in organizing the ceremony and the related parties
Although a Matron of Honor may wish to say something of the groom it is not required to endorse him in anyway.
Although a Maid/Matrons speech is relatively short, much time, thought and effort must be put into it. It is not something put together over a few hours or days. A great way to write a quality Matron of Honor speech is to look at over the numerous professional publications available for speech examples or samples, etiquette, tips, jokes, toasts etc
Despite numerous free sample speeches being available online, I would personally invest the odd $20 (which seems to be the going rate) on a professional Maid/matron of Honor Speech package. I went through the situation of trying to put through tons of information and samples together that I found on google just before my girlfriends wedding. It was information overload and none of it was organized in a coherent fashion for me. It ended up being a huge waste of time for junk. If I can give you and your wife any advice, it would be check out these pro packages.
I just did a quick search of Bing and Yahoo (Google always returns too much junk for me) with the term “Matron of Honor Speech” in quotes and amongst the loads of hits, I found near the top this review site. It seems like a logical place to start for some of the top professional speech packages for Maids and Matrons of Honor. Check it out – Matron of Honor Speech – http://matronofhonorspeech.net
All the best
Lucy
As far as I know, the roles aren’t any different for one versus the other. Their only real responsibility is to make sure the day goes smoothly, sometimes hold the bride’s bouquet at the alter, and help out with party favors and such.
If she’s giving a speech, I’d suggest she spend some time getting reacquainted with the bride-to-be for a more personal speech. Or she could always go with a more traditional speech.
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It’s the same thing. Matron just means she’s married or has been married.
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The role is that same in both cases. A Matron of Honor is a married woman. A Maid of Honor is an unmarried woman. The Matron of Honor does not have a duty to impart any marital advice at all. She’s there to make sure everything goes right.
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The only real difference between a maid and a matron is that the maid is a single "miss" and a Matron is a married "mrs.” Regardless the role she fills for the bride is a matter of honor, no matter what her marital status is.
Being already married and having gone through the process before, your wife should have a very good head start over a lesser experienced, but no less honored Maid. She should think back to her own wedding and remember what was said. Maids and Matrons of Honor are part worker bee and part emotional shoulder to lean on.
Maids and Matrons of Honor may be required to do some or most of the following
*provide emotional and logistical support before and during the wedding.
* help with the wedding planning
*to keep a close eye on the bride – acts as her protector and protector of her dress, and *helping the bride to get ready on her wedding day and other assistance throughout the day.
* plan a bridal shower for the bride.
*plan a bachelorette party
* assist the bride in selecting and writing out the invitations
*assist in the selecting of decorations, cakes
*delivering a speech and/or toast
Customarily,but not always, the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for all expenses associated with her outfit, the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, as well as gifts for all these events. She may organise a others – including family or bridesmaids to also kick in some funding. If the Maid/Matron is from out of town, then they must account for their own travel expenses to and from the wedding and or other related pre-wedding functions. It is becoming more common for a bride to offer assistance in many of these financials. Maids/Matrons should get up front from the bride exactly what expenses they will be expected to bear. If they envisage that taking on such costs will be too much of a burden, then it really is far more suitable to decline the honor from the very outset, instead of dropping out of the wedding ceremony at the last minute.
Regarding the matron of honor speech, it is ordinarily the last of all the speeches. People may be losing their attention spans by the time it’s a Matrons turn to speak so the speech should be mildly interesting or amusing to keep the guests interested. Your wife should think about the speech that your maid or matron of honor gave at her wedding. She should take the time to carefully consider what exactly she’d like to say well in advance, so she should start now. The matron of honor speech traditionally ends with a toast to the bride, thanking her for the honor and offering her any ongoing support to the couple’s new marriage. If bride’s family are known well, this is a good time to thank them for the assistance they’ve offered in organizing the ceremony and the related parties
Although a Matron of Honor may wish to say something of the groom it is not required to endorse him in anyway.
Although a Maid/Matrons speech is relatively short, much time, thought and effort must be put into it. It is not something put together over a few hours or days. A great way to write a quality Matron of Honor speech is to look at over the numerous professional publications available for speech examples or samples, etiquette, tips, jokes, toasts etc
Despite numerous free sample speeches being available online, I would personally invest the odd $20 (which seems to be the going rate) on a professional Maid/matron of Honor Speech package. I went through the situation of trying to put through tons of information and samples together that I found on google just before my girlfriends wedding. It was information overload and none of it was organized in a coherent fashion for me. It ended up being a huge waste of time for junk. If I can give you and your wife any advice, it would be check out these pro packages.
I just did a quick search of Bing and Yahoo (Google always returns too much junk for me) with the term “Matron of Honor Speech” in quotes and amongst the loads of hits, I found near the top this review site. It seems like a logical place to start for some of the top professional speech packages for Maids and Matrons of Honor. Check it out – Matron of Honor Speech – http://matronofhonorspeech.net
All the best
Lucy
References :
http://matronofhonorspeech.net